The best way to build self-esteem is through esteemable acts that make you feel better about who you are as a person in healthy, concrete ways.
- Show Up On Time: When you make a commitment to time with another person, you are committing to not just your time but their time. You owe it to the other person to show up to your appointments, events, dates, interviews, or anything requiring time, on time. If you have to cancel, cancel well in advance and express your apologies. Showing up on time is a small esteemable act that helps you not be that person who is always late.
- Show Up, Period: It’s better to show up late than never, but it’s better to show up early than late. More importantly, it’s just better to show up. You gain self-esteem by learning to show up to the things you are supposed to show up to. Metaphorically, you are learning to show up in life, by showing up clean and sober every day.
- Help Others Unexpectedly: Hold the door open. Ask if someone needs help. Do a favor. Fill in to a spot where you’re needed. People in recovery tend to act in extremes. It’s easy to take on too many opportunities to help and overload yourself with feelings of obligation. That is not the esteemable approach when you cannot fulfill your responsibilities. Instead, you should take on what you can and otherwise be helpful in unexpected situations, like holding open the door.
- Be Accountable and Be Responsible: Accountability and responsibility are hugely important in recovery. The difference between being accountable and being responsible is a matter of understanding. You can be responsible for something because you have an obligation toward it. You are accountable when you are expected to justify your decisions and be responsible for them. Being accountable and responsible are esteemable acts because you are holding yourself to your word, which has gained more meaning in recovery.
- Be Respectful: Respect is having a deep admiration for others. Respect might not mean admiring the particulars of who someone is and what they do. Respect is estimable because it acknowledges the deeper recognition that other people are human, prone to their own thoughts, opinions, and mistakes.
- Be Considerate: Addiction and alcoholism are inherently selfish and self-centered diseases. The way that addiction changes the wiring of the brain includes a shift in priority and focus. All priority and focus goes to drugs and alcohol which completely take priority. Rather than be able to consider negative consequences and how decisions affect others the only thing that matters is the self-serving act of drinking and using. Being considerate toward others means taking the thoughts, feelings, and opinions of others into consideration and acting generously toward that.
You are capable of creating tremendous change in your life, one step at a time. Design For Change offers a refuge for those in the fight against addiction to come out victorious. Our treatment programs are built on the hope and freedom that recovery can provide. For information on our full continuum of care and recovery services, call us today: (877) 267-3646